Have you tried to gain traction but people just ignore your efforts? Do you want a way to earn more trust and gain more respect by being you?
Make a lasting impression the way you want, and these are possibilities. The secret is what you reveal about yourself and where and how you reveal it.
Curious what this really means and want to make things easier in your life?
Continue reading to find out all the different tricks that I am sharing with you today. But before I get started there are a few things I need you to understand.
I am currently testing these tricks out and so far things are working well. But just in case my results start to change drastically, be aware it’s only in test mode.
Now with that being out of the way, I want you to understand two things which may sound similar but are really two separate things most of the time.
These two are confidence and charisma, one can easily happen without the other but that’s not true if you reverse it.
You cannot be charismatic if you’re not confident, because you will be unable to talk to most people. That eliminates the chance for you to show off any of your personality.
The way I look at charisma is it combines confidence, self-esteem, add in a little bit of passion, and risk about what you present. Then you start to sprinkle in some boldness, authenticity, and humor.
This allows you to be exactly what character you see yourself as, and let’s face it everyone really is a character. You don’t always get to see that side of people because they block it when they’re around strangers.
But it’s actually who you really are and it’s reflected when you can get past all the negatives and limitations in your life. Our brains hold us back away from the truth about ourselves which isn’t the best way to make an impression.
Everything in this article will be your secret formula to gain that needed presence you have always had inside of you. Keep an open mind and get ready to learn what is perhaps the most helpful article you have ever come across.
Charisma makes a lasting impression
The biggest mistake that beginners make is they spend all their time working on things which are only important after they have built up a reputation. That means you work too hard to get the same results you will be getting once you follow these tricks.
Before you would enter a room and likely be subject to your reactions and responses. Instead of that, I will teach you how it makes more sense to remove the guess-work, the over-reaction, and any possibilities that may embarrass you.
Sound good? Okay, so you want to be an in the moment personality, which will mean you have to learn a few things that control your reactions. This will set you up to blow people away and leave them thinking you’re naturally charismatic.
To start practicing this you need to figure out your audience, or who you are wanting to impress. That will eliminate the need to worry about pleasing everyone.
Having this goal in mind you will need to be working on the timing of things. This way you jump in when it makes sense and don’t just blindly throw something out there.
By the way, this is also what the professional speakers use to build up hype and gain an audience for their seminars. The level of the engagement is a huge factor.
Don’t freak out based on the expectations you have for anyone, I want you to build yourself up to talking to different types of people.
One big mistake that gets made is you start to think a person is better than you, this will clog your mind and you won’t be able to maintain your own presence.
You can practice staying out of your mind about the person’s reputation just by understanding that they grew from infancy the same as you. That they have had ups and downs just like you and that they get nervous just like you.
What will be needed to build up connection
First, you will need to gather some basic information about the people who will be present. Then see what you can create to fit them into a story you want to tell.
After you have this ready, you need to also understand how to slip it into the conversation so that it’s natural and doesn’t end up looking forced.
This is similar to what you study up on before engaging with everyone else. Figure out whats trending and what will be great topics to discuss.
Once you have had the opportunity to warm up with some small chit chat, move on to bigger fish. That could be anyone that you have taken the time to get a clear picture about.
Social media makes it easy for some information and professional websites or autobiographies make it simple for others. Now, this won’t be automatic the first few times you try, but practice and it will become easier.
To build your confidence to a level that’s high enough to take this challenge, you will want to know my secret formula. I will get to that part later on, for now, know that it’s about your presence and what you can say or do to engage with others.
Before I start giving you the rest of the secret formula, there are skills you need to be confident using.
Here is a list of things that I will name your
- Positive control of your mind
- Understanding of power words
- Preparation and readiness
- How to build up to a hype
- Attention to detail
- Ability to set the scene
- A firm grip on character creation
- Body language along with facial expressions
- Quality listening skills
- In-depth knowledge of self
- Belief and Value system
- A personal story that you can share
- Ability to take risks
You don’t have to be an expert at any of these things and I will cover each of them just in case you’re unsure of what they mean.
The skills you need to make a lasting impression
What is positive control of your mind? This is the outlook or mindset you build so you can eliminate all the negatives which are bound to come up.
To strengthen this skill you will need to practice affirmations and meditations. Also, removing your fears and understanding that nothing is gonna just fall into your lap.
Everything you get you will work to achieve and nothing is out of your reach. How do you know you have this? Follow along with the blogs I have written and do the work.
You should know yourself well enough that there isn’t even a question about if you have gained this skill.
Understanding the power of words. What are these and how do you learn them? Remember back to when you learned about different words and their different meanings.
You also learned about a thesaurus and what words mean the same thing or close to it. Use the most powerful words you can to create an impression and a mindset of yourself and others.
Don’t just memorize a few smart sounding long words that you have no real clue how to use properly. The idea is to replace the mediocre words with an alternative that makes you feel WoW.
Instead of saying nice you will want to up it to pleasant. And instead of saying good, you can up it to great, wonderful, amazing, fantastic…
Use words that have “Power” and you will make a much better impression.
Preparation and readiness are things that you get yourself familiar with. When you’re going to an event, or you have an idea you will run into somebody.
It’s nice to have a few things you can talk about. This isn’t the same thing as memorizing scripts because that just creates a linear way to communicate and sounds ignorant.
By preparing yourself ahead of time you are able to keep a few anecdotes, jokes or stories which you can actually insert into the conversation exactly when you want.
Find something funny, make a note of it and look for when is the best time to mention it. But that isn’t the only way to be prepared, follow the news or what things are trending so that you can at least bring it up and add to a short conversation.
By all means, practice this skill as often as you can and get it to the point that you just do it in your everyday routine.
How to build up to a hype means you use your stories or jokes to set something else up. You will want to gain the interest of whomever you’re talking to and string them along a little bit.
You can do this with a compliment too, you look nice I love your new ______. Then it just so happens you have a great story about a time when you did _____.
Later on, you are able to once again use that same compliment and share another experience or a joke that you just thought of.
Attention to detail isn’t meaning you need to be perfect, in fact, you can create jokes about how imperfect you see yourself or something that happened.
What I am really talking about here is to set up your stories with descriptive wording. That way you can see the reactions people have to each different part of the stories you share.
Once again this is where practice will help you the most.
Ability to set the scene goes right along with the last one, you want even the most ordinary situation to feel unique that way the other person see’s it as you want them to.
Get comfortable telling stories which you turn average into exceptional and people will love listening to you talk. You will even create a fanbase just by creating stories.
This is one you can use in both your writing and conversations to gain more peoples interest. Some of the most respected people are storytellers.
A firm grip on character creation isn’t hard to do and will allow you to keep some stories for special occasions. You can replace yourself in a story with any kind of character you want and make people wonder if it’s about your life.
This can even become more popular than a real person because who doesn’t enjoy watching shows with great and wonderful characters which lead fantastic lives.
Just because something didn’t happen to you doesn’t mean you have to leave that story alone. This gives you a lot more freedom to become amazing.
Lasting impressions are all about you
I didn’t expect that last section to be that long so wanting to change it up and keep things a little easier for you to track were your at meant making a new heading for the rest of the skills.
Body language along with facial expressions are huge ways for you to show you know your stuff. You will want to observe yourself enough so you know your own body.
Use a mirror or start recording yourself and stop being afraid of what you look like. The sound of your voice isn’t important because you can easily work on changing it with a couple of voice tricks or lessons.
Never assume that you’re not as good as others and really make sure you’re convinced of this belief. The last thing you need is an inner voice that secretly thinks you’re not incredible.
Use youtube and look for somebody named Vanessa van Edwards if you need to know a body language expert. She is responsible for the website scienceofpeople.com and it’s got a lot of great free advice you can go through.
There are even videos that cover much of the basics which are all you really need to gain this skill prior to practicing it more.
You also want to use the facial expressions that go with your mood. Don’t try to always look contempt because you feel that helps people not to know what you’re actually feeling.
There is a time to let go of the issues you once held and it’s long past now.
Quality listening skills may sound like an obvious one, but it’s extremely important that you practice what it actually means to listen to somebody fully.
I wrote about active listening earlier in one of the blog posts. Make sure you’re not talking to yourself and you’re not being distracted by anything outside of the people you are focusing on.
When you think you have a good feel for this skill just keep learning more. You can’t effectively reach people if you don’t understand what it first means to listen.
In-depth self-knowledge isn’t something you should take lightly. People love to listen to interviews and what usually is the topic discussed? When you get to a point of doing interviews it helps when you know yourself and can share things.
But it helps that you solidly believe everything that you share. Don’t mention things you know little or nothing about and even if it’s something you should know about yourself it looks fake if you struggle.
Questions are pretty easy to practice and ask yourself, it’s why you should have a blog yourself or at least a few journals by now. Plus you never know when you will be presented with a chance to share a great story if you have one ready or not.
Belief and value systems matter big time because you will likely not be able to stay neutral about everything. Not to mention how it would create a lot of struggles in your life if you don’t consistently follow some rules.
This goes right along with knowledge about yourself because there is no excuse not to develop these and know them well. How else are you gonna know what you want?
A personal story that you share is different than the other stories. This is the big one that you want everyone to know about you. No matter how good or bad your life was or is everyone has a great reason for pursuing their goals.
What you need to figure out is how to tell that story the best way possible. This can and likely will be your brand story when you build a business(there is no reason not to with the internet growing massively bigger each year).
The sooner you figure out that everyone is a brand for something the easier this part gets to optimize. Just be ready to add a success story(ies) to it to create some personalization later on.
Ability to take risks because you can’t stay in one spot forever and if you hadn’t figured it out almost everything you want outta life has risks involved.
Now is no longer the time to let anything stop you, but do understand there are many different ways to benefit from taking risks.
Secret Information ahead be sure to tell nobody!
People of all kinds and shapes love hearing secrets. They create a lot of suspense and mystery because you feel special when you are told one.
Instead of labeling everything the same as everyone else, you really can achieve a lot of things and make great impressions when you make people feel this way.
Just think about it for a minute, what other tricks are there which accomplish the same things as a secret? Remember the to be continued… at the end of a television show?
Or when you go to a movie and it’s obvious there is gonna be another sequel or two. Doesn’t that stick with you even if it’s kinda negative?
Presentation and perception are wonderful ways to figure out what to give to your audience even when it’s a conversation that started out of nowhere.
Take the time in your own life and start paying more attention to the ways people or companies try to make you feel like they are speaking just to you.
When you can do the same things, more people will be ready to not just like you, but start to love you. And it’s that love which really starts to make a difference.
Make a lasting impression and have fun doing it
In this last part, I want to reveal to you the best way you become memorable. That is having a gimmick, or something that you can do that others will want and expect from you when they see you.
Everyone that get’s into the minds of others has something that is special and automatically sticks. What can you do to find your gimmick and how can you blow people away with it?
Here are a couple of ideas and you can also come up with anything as long as you test it out on people before you decide on it permanently.
Start by figuring out what part of your life that you feel would make sense. Sometimes you get a nickname because of it, and other times you may not be aware that you do it.
You may also hear that a gimmick is deceptive or it’s for a business as a marketing ploy to distract from a major shortcoming. Those are things that it could mean, but it’s meaning only matters to you.
It’s just simply a method you put forth to help people to remember who you are, and it helps you make a name for yourself in the area you want.
You don’t have to be a business or in advertising to come up with an idea, nor do you have to listen to what anyone else has to say.
The reason is that it doesn’t make a bit of difference and right brain people will appreciate you doing it. This has covered how you make a lasting impression the way you want.
After all, it’s about you right now and that is what really matters most.