Life is wonderful when you can identify and fix the problems in your life. What happens when the biggest problem we allhave to face is ourselves?
How can you identify each area that you are lacking in?
Does it mean you should write things down and try to guess or should you try to ask somebody else what they think?
Our experiences impact our lives to a point of taking or avoiding actions. When this happens what do we change to move past them?
How does all of this compare to problems such as money, our health, or dating?
Follow along as we answer these questions and show you how to overcome your problems.
Self-Inflicted problems and what to do about them
I like to get a full understanding of what really goes on with myself. This means always start with a search that will give an idea of strengths or skills.
When we know our strengths and weaknesses it lets us know a few things:
- What you do with no hesitation
- What you don’t try because of fears
- What you can try but don’t really have experience with.
- Where you should look for other’s advice/recommendations
- When you can start doing something about weaknesses
- How you learn so you don’t waste any time.
- Which area to work on to improve first.
For anyone who lacks the knowledge to understand the strengths they possess, this can be done with a brainstorm. Listing everything you do on a typical day, week or month.
Then after doing this for strengths you can go back over and see if there are somethings you hesitate in doing because you lack the confidence to do them.
You can also get opinions from other people or other sources. It’s not uncommon to figure out your not alone and see what somebody has found to be their biggest weaknesses.
The reason these are self-inflicted problems is that we haven’t taken the time to understand why we didn’t learn to do them.
We may be afraid of trying something, we may be uncomfortable trying to do it (in front of other people, or alone).
An example of a weakness is public speaking. Many people don’t bother to learn how to get comfortable doing it so it becomes a self-inflicted problem which adds to a negative perspective of ourselves.
We get taught early on that everything is possible and when we don’t do everything great, we tend to let all things in that same area become too difficult to try.
Self-Taught problems and ways to retrain ourselves
Self-inflicted and Self-taught are two different sets of problems for all of us. The biggest difference is what we actually think when it comes up.
For self-taught we assume we are not any good at something because we haven’t been able to do it before. These are self-doubts and they can be next to impossible to get our mindset away from.
An example of a self-taught problem is people who try to play an instrument, they struggle to understand it and assume that they could never learn to do anything musically.
Avoidance is the biggest reason behind this kind of a problem. Try and fail and never try again is another way to look at this kind of thing.
Convinced because somebody made us feel we couldn’t do them
The first two areas are about what we think of ourselves because our own minds trick us into believing them. This is about what other people have burned into our brains.
You may love to play football, but anytime you go to join a group of people and play. They pick you last and say you can’t be the quarterback because you can’t throw the ball as well as others.
It never occurs to you that these people are mistaken since you haven’t had the proper training or practice to this. But you believe what they say and it ends up a problem because you will never try again at this.
How does this stay within what we are talking about when it comes to ourselves. We must learn at some point that we need to ignore other peoples opinions of us and focus on what our capabilities are.
Even if they have evaluated something as a weakness, we need to fully understand that it’s based on a standard that means absolutely nothing to anyone else but them.
Convinced because somebody made us feel we could excel at something
The opposite is true as well, maybe we really aren’t great at something but have been told the wrong thing. We waste our time doing something that isn’t a strength and it has been terribly unfortunate for us.
We may or may not ever figure out things which fall into this area, but at some point, it will likely be proven to us that it is not an area we should have been focusing on.
Prime example here is when you see people audition for singing competition shows. We have all seen a clip of a terrible singer and wondered how in the world they could have thought they were any good.
Biggest problem we all face
It is only after looking at each of these areas that we gain an understanding of who we really are. How to use this information?
Figure out your top priorities first and cross off anything you just don’t want to work on right now. By building yourself a plan of action we can improve on the things which matter the most.
Countless people have asked why they can’t figure out what kind of life they really want. They go in circles for a long time because they haven’t done any type of self-assessment or evaluation.
They never think that the answer to their biggest problems is found within themselves. And if they simply dig deep enough the answer will be right in front of them.
It is only through this type of understanding that we can figure out what skills we lack in order to do something we love.
Time to recap a few things
To understand the biggest problem in your life, you must know what you are good at.(Strengths). After that, you can identify your problem areas(Weaknesses) which you should make a priority to work on.
When both of these are known we can figure why we haven’t got these skills previously and if they are worth gaining. By looking at the main things we want we figure out all the possibilities that will lead to a better more enjoyable and fulfilling life.
Only after doing all of this we can then write down a plan and figure out what the best and most convenient way to learn things and then do them. The biggest problem we all have to face becomes a simple path we all want to follow.
I hope you have found this helpful and if you have any questions please let me know.
The sooner you can understand yourself the sooner you will be able to enjoy yourself and how you should live your life.